Date: Mar 13th 2014 4:16p.m.
Contributed by:
chelseastone
Every week our sexperts take questions from our readers — read on for this week’s dilemma.
My wife wants children, but I don’t. I’ve been having an affair with another woman for the last six months, but I can never imagine leaving my wife. She is my life partner. I know my wife could still have a chance of a family with someone else but I don’t want to lose her. What should I do? — Conflicted
The Western View
Joe Schaefer
Let me start by keeping tally of how many ‘I’ statements popped up in that little whine cellar I just took a tour of. I assure you we are very clear on what you want and don’t want, and even clearer on how very little you give a shit about your poor, neglected woman.
Despite the fact that your wife would almost certainly be happier with someone else, someone willing to provide her with the single most fulfilling event in her life, you would rather she wouldn’t. And the reason, you offer, is that she is your “life partner”.
This term—I do not think it means what you think it means. What is a “life partner” then? I’ll break it down into its individual cogs. The “life” bit at the beginning refers to the duration of time you have committed to not weaseling your way into your secretary’s panties.
You whiffed that one by a country mile. To be fair, it is a long time, but no one said this whole “life partner” business was going to be chess club tee ball.
Next, let’s dive into the “partner” half that closes it up. A “partnership” entails mutuality of all aspects of the relationship endeavor, including respecting feelings and desires and …